Everything is “else” to the “I”. Find out if there is something in which the “I” itself is else.
Nowadays, the self has become the center of everything and is at the same time so fragile. We are flooded with a lot of information about the self. On social media, through workshops, retreats, magazines, websites, etc… An enormous industry of self-help, trying to guide you answer the questions – Who do I want to be? - How to achieve my goal? - How to fulfill my purpose? …
A permanent identity quest, present everywhere in our society. All of these questions are rather new questions. In the past or in other parts of the world today, you kind of know who you are. You are the son or daughter of your parents, in a certain family, you might take over your parents’ business, play a certain sport, get married, have children, etc. That’s who you are. But in many other parts, we spend our time figuring out who we are… And both of those can be good things and less good things…
Here is my idea and belief about the self.
First of all, the self can only live in negative.
You are not your name
You are not your body
You are not your job
You are not your hobby
You are not your social status
You are not your thoughts
You are not your feelings
You are not your mind
You are not your memory
You are not your ego
You are not your intellect
To know what you are, you must first investigate and know what you are not.
Then you can ask yourself “Who am I then?”. After all, the only fact that you are sure of is that you are. The “I am” is certain. The “I am this” is not.
As Pierre Teilhard de Chardin perfectly said, “You are a spiritual being having a human experience”.
Sounds like a sweet melody to your ears, right? But what does it really mean?
You are a multi-dimensions spiritual being. You came to this earth with a flame within that connects you to all realms, visible, invisible, human, animal, vegetal, mineral. You are aware and can feel the energy around you and in you. Still unsure? Put the palms of your hands up, close your eyes, and bring your attention to the palms of your hands. Don’t tell me you don’t feel the energy.
Maybe in your early years, you kind of got a sense of how you wanted to evolve in this world, what you wanted to do in this embodiment, how you wanted to contribute to this world that is your home for now. Then, education takes place, with expansion and structure at the same time, with freedom and rules at the same time, with new ideas from you and new learnings from other people as well. You establish your values that will be refined and sharpened until your 20s’. And here you go, ready to rock and roll!
Seriously, how many kids got parents that wanted them to be a doctor, a lawyer, a teacher, or whatever they thought was good to their kids? How many parents have you heard saying: “No matter what you do, I just want you to be happy and safe”. I haven’t heard that one many times though… What a shame… How many of you started a school path, a career path, and ended completely elsewhere. Well if it can reassure you, that’s my story and the one of most of my friends.
So, forget your name, your job, your social status, your friends' circle, your family, your skin color, hair color, sit back and close your eyes for a moment. Ask yourself: “Who am I?” “What do I do?” When you get the first answer, open your eyes, take a deep breathe in and exhale slowly. Close your eyes again and go back 5 years earlier. Step into your body at that age and ask yourself again the same question “Who am I”, “What do I do”? Repeat this process until you are between 2 and 7.
Keep in mind that the answer is sometimes a feeling and there is no word to explain it. Many chances are that you connected to this flame within you and there is no word, just bliss.
Now, once you connected to your flame, yes, I believe these questions take on their full meaning: “Who do I want to be in this in this life, with this embodiment?”– “How will I fulfill my purpose?” – “How will I achieve my goals?” … because, whatever you feel or think is your purpose, goal, or however you want to label it, if it comes from your flame, you are limitless. Your self is limitless.
It’s at this very moment that I think there has been confusion between the self and what I would call your manifestation, your creation. Your own soul manifesting and accomplishing its purpose in line with your values.
Creating a life that reflects your values and satisfies your soul is a rare achievement. To invent your own life’s meaning is not easy, but it is still allowed, and I think you will be happier for the trouble. Bill Watterson
So, if you have children, instead of asking “What do you want to do when you grow up”, ask: “Who do you want to be when you grow up?”, “How will your star shine and spread its light in the world when you grow up?”, “How would you make the world a place of harmony and fun?” Children are a pure source of light and the expression of all possibilities… Sometimes, after a day of work, I take some time to teach my daughter some interesting stuffs that I have learned during the day, but I also make sure that I got some time when she teaches me things in return :-) That’s a brilliant way to reconnect with your ingenuousness, not taking life too seriously and step into a world of all possibilities.
Kind reminder :
. You are exactly where you need to be
. You are absolutely good enough
. Don’t compare yourself to others
. You find happiness in progress
. Take some time to regularly ask yourself “What is it that is important for me in this life?”
. Know how to do the right thing for you. Let excellence be your brand
. And for the spirituals of you: How will you fulfill the highest truest expression of yourself as a human being, how will you fulfill the promise that the creator dreamed when he dreamed the cells that made you up
Buddha declared before his death that he would be coming again after 25 centuries and his name would be Maitreya, which means the friend. It is a way of saying that the master will be only the friend, without judgment, without the Self. Many will be ready without a master, by themselves, without the Self.
Sending lots of love to your self and your manifesting power within you <3
Jasmine
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