Valentine’s day happens to be today!
What a good moment to reflect on relationships.
The minute you’re born, you dive into the world of relationships and its complexity. Relationships are life. You have a relationship with every single thing that is part of your world. You have a relationship with yourself, other people, things and every aspect of yourself.
HERE IS A NON-EXHAUSTIVE LIST OF WHAT AND WHO YOU HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH:
Society
Money
Mom
Dad
Romantic relationship
Universe or God
Marriage
Spirit guides
Cars
Food
Exercise
Meditation
Government
The city you live in
Career
Your body
Your health
Life in general
Family
Emotions
Your mind
Your look
Hobbies
Home
Community
Kids
Partner etc, etc
LITTLE EXERCISE
For many of these, you will find that you have a resistance to it. To find out, make your own list or follow this one and for each of them, say
….. I think you are …..
For example: Society, I think you are …….
No need to be politically correct, be brutally honest, and you will find out with which of them you are in resistance to.
Regarding romantic relationships, the best definition that I found about Love is to take someone –or something– as a part of yourself. Love is inclusive. It is a movement towards oneness. It is taking someone’s best interests as a part of your best interests, someone’s pain as a part of your pain, someone’s joy becomes a part of your joy.
When you start a romantic relationship or even when you are in a long-term relationship, it is essential to communicate each other’s needs, knowing that they change with time and with your evolution.
Romantic relationships are in my opinion the most challenging ones but also the ones that make you grow the most. They are very often a reflection of something within you.
A reflection of something that you lack, that you crave or that you deny.
You can also identify the role you have within the relationship, within the family, and invite your partner to identify his/her role. Share how you feel about this role. Are these roles compatible ? How you want to make these roles evolve.
Here are some “funny” questions to ask your partner
What did I used to do for you, but don’t do anymore, that you wish I did ?
Where do you see our relationship in 5 years ?
What does your ideal sex life look like ?
What is this one thing that I do that drives you nuts ?
What is the thing that I do that makes you fall for me ?
If you were to meet me for the first time today, what would you say or think ?
Make some tea. Go with our partner in your garden, your balcony, your terrace. Sit comfortably or lay down and explore these questions. Ask some more, many more. Sadly enough, many of us don’t take the time anymore to explore our partner’s mind, needs, wants, wishes, worries, and that’s how we end up living in 2 complete different realities, under the same roof.
Time to reconnect now. Today. With your partner, friends, family and every aspect of yourself as well ;-)
Have a beautiful Valentine’s day!
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